Lil bro

Leadership skills need improving. My brother and I were going to get his mom a gift on Canada day. I asked him to check the if he had checked whether Walmart was open. He said yes it was, and I asked him what time is it open till, and he lied again. I made him check the Walmart time, and of course he was off. I asked him why he lied to me, and he said “because I know you would say something like this”. Essentially the reason he lied was because he knew he should’ve checked the time, and he knew I was going to make it a lesson or even worse get mad at him. I apologized to him and said “I promise wouldn’t get mad at him if he clearly said he made a mistake. Honest to God, maybe I was power tripping, like I just wanted him to teach him something?

I failed him as a older brother in creating an environment where he has to be perfect. It got me thinking about how I can better guide him to be what he wants. I’m not sure what the answer to that is, but perhaps I could tell a story about me, making a similar mistake. What can I do so that him becomes the best version of himself. I tried asking him what he wants to do. He said an engineer, but I think he may be biased because I’m in school for engineering and he doesn’t really know anything else. One thing that might help is an exposure to different things, but it has to be fun. I brought him to my robot club, and he didn’t have a great time, he likes music, he takes piano lessons and sings in the choir. He doesn’t really like sports the same way I do. Doesn’t like karate, doesn’t want to do swimming. He wrote a script about a rap battle, but he didn’t go through with it. He edited videos for no reason, he has a bunch of videos on youtube, (primarily hockey edits). He plays fantasy hockey and knows about all the hockey players and trades and whatnot, his older brother (not me) is super into hockey.

I asked him to edit one of my videos, but he didn’t do it. I suspect it was because it wasn’t really fun for him. He likes making was montages and I was pulling him away from that. Reading this back now, I think my brother is doing great. I think the reason I feel like I need to make him perfect is because I’m so nitty gritty about everything now. I didn’t understand that he’s just a kid, that does what’s fun for him at the moment. That’s pretty much what I did too, magic tricks, origami, soccer, rubiks cube and when I was 12-13ish I started coding. A big one was watching clash royale, slither.io, diep.io, bloon TD battles, bloon TD5, tanki online on Youtube.